Share Your Pain

Oprah said to a brave woman who went from over 500 pounds to under 200, "Your pain empowers someone." Not a twisted way of thinking but an honest one. When we share our pain in a way that doesn't ask for pity but rather respect,there is someone out there who relates to our story and is empowered.

When I decided to bare my soul in my bio/self-help book "Lessons From the Potholes of Life" it was with much trepidation. What would they think if they found out what I'd done in my life? What if they didn't love me anymore?What if they didn't respect me?...and so on and so forth.

Anyone out ever there felt like that? I'm here to tell you that when you share your pain, there is someone out there who says," Wow! IF she could beat that or turn her life around, I can too." Not only did my presence in the community increase but so did the respect. 3 years later I still have people come up to me and tell me what my story did for them. I didn't want a best seller, just a book that would make a difference in someone's life.

You may never publish your story, although I heartily recommend it, but you can share your painful experience with someone who is hurting. Story telling is a powerful way to reach people. Try telling your story at your club, Toastmasters, kids school, church or to a magazine.

The one caution is to not do it as a way of getting even or cause pain to someone else. Unless we are talking about a predator or murderer, handle with diplomacy.This can be dangerous ground in families. No matter what a person may have done, especially if they are still alive, tell the story with compassion and dignity.

Paul Anka was asked how he felt about helping new rising stars , "If you can help somone, you have to." It's just that simple.

Keep in mind there are retreats, workshops and much more in store for you this fall. Email me or scroll down for details listed.

Live from a heart overflowing with acceptance and appreciation.